Find Your Soulmate Online:
Internet has been used for dating since the introduction of bulletin board services. ’Singles’ was one of the first and the most popular chat rooms on America Online, and real dating websites like Kiss.com, Match.com and Oneandonly.com have emerged only few years after that. Online dating was also popularized by Tom Hanks, who shifted from radio dating in Sleepless in Seattle to AOL’s „Over 30s“ chat room in You’ve Got Mail. Although the concept of online dating didn’t change much during the last 20 years, new apps and websites offer much easier browsing options and the online dating community grew to unbelievable proportions. But how should we use these websites and apps in order to find our perfect soulmate online?
Which platform to choose?
Today there is a wide selection of online dating platforms. These websites use different matching algorithms, so before you choose your favorite platform, you should reevaluate your personality and dating style. These are some of the most popular websites and apps in this niche:
● Tinder- for people who like to get right to the point
Swipe movement is crucial for this app’s design and for the concept it represents. This app uses photos as the most powerful tool for attracting potential partners. You can swipe photos (right for a ‘good match’, left for requesting a new one) of people chosen by Tinder’s algorithm and decide whether you would like to chat with them or date them.
● Blendr- for people who want to find a smarter match
Blendr uses GPS location sensing and social media framework, in order to allow its users to find their match in close proximity. Like Tinder, it can be connected with Facebook, but it also allows you to leave more information on your profile and find people with the matching interests, likes and dislikes.
● OKCupid- for Advance dating
Like most other dating apps, OKCupid has an algorithm that matches people in accordance with their preferences and profile information. Unlike other apps we mentioned in this article, it allows you to fill in your profile with lots of useful data. This way profile viewers will have more information about you, and OKCupid’s algorithm will find better matches. When you want to browse other users’ profiles you can choose between ‘Quick match’ option, which fully relies on the app’s algorithm, or regular search that lists users in accordance with the query you just made.
● Match.com and eHarmony.com
Some of the oldest and the most respectful online dating brands have been turned into paid services. Both websites require you to fill in a lengthy survey and then they use your data to find people with the same interests. EHarmony.com doesn’t give any guarantees and if their algorithm decides that there are no users who match your personality they will reject your profile for good.
How to use online dating websites and apps?
People are usually much less trustful on online dating websites, than in real life. This means that any attempt of misrepresentation can be suspicious, so you shouldn’t place cropped and outdated images on your profile. People often don’t bother to fill in their profiles. This is a very important step, which tells a lot about your intentions. Empty profiles lead people to think they are talking to an immature or fraudulent person.
Purpose of online dating websites is to make communication easier, which is why you shouldn’t be afraid to make the first move. Make your approach original and don’t start your message with: “How you doin’?” because only Joey Tribbiani can pull that through. Even if you make a wrong choice, that won’t reduce your chances to find your perfect match. Also don’t be ashamed for using online dating platforms. This is completely normal in this day and age, when every life dilemma can be solved with a few clicks. For example, filing for divorce in California can be done online, which is another example of crucial life issue that can be solved from your barca lounger.
Although online dating can be very exciting and intriguing, you should always take precaution. Refrain from adding personal data to your profile and use free mail for signing up to all of the above mentioned websites and apps. If you want to talk to people you’ve met, on the phone, use anonymous phone service like: Viber or WhatsApp. Always arrange meetings at a public place and use your own transportation. Remember that your safety always comes first and make strict boundaries for acquaintances you meet through online dating.